Being alone: How we lose connection in a networked world – and find it again
In a world that seems more connected than ever before, a paradoxical feeling is spreading: Many of us feel increasingly alone. Feeling lonely is not uncommon. It's important to realize: You are not alone in feeling alone . It's a deeply human experience that can affect us all – after a breakup, in old age, or even in the midst of others. But there are ways to overcome this loneliness and allow more closeness and warmth back into our lives.
Alone or lonely? Understanding the difference
It's important to distinguish between conscious solitude and painful loneliness. Having time for yourself can be a valuable source of strength and reflection. The ability to enjoy being alone is a strength. It becomes problematic when solitude turns into involuntary isolation, an emotional loneliness that leaves us feeling sad and empty. Many people are familiar with this feeling of not being seen, even in a relationship or among many people. It's a social loneliness that alienates us from the world.
The good news is: We can do something about loneliness. As social beings, we need community, interaction, and the feeling of being part of something bigger. It's about taking the initiative and leaving the passive role behind. The TED talk "How to start a movement" provides an inspiring demonstration of how a single person can change an entire dynamic. It makes it clear that the first step is often the decisive one in getting others on board.
Ways out of loneliness: Consciously creating encounters
I don't want to be alone anymore – this wish is the beginning of a change. The path out of loneliness leads through genuine encounters. It's about provoking more random moments of connection. That sounds big, but it starts small: a conversation in the neighborhood, a new hobby, a walk through a previously unfamiliar part of town. Every step outside is a step toward potential new contacts.
A tool to break the ice
Often, the biggest hurdle is taking a conversation beyond superficial small talk. How do you establish a connection? Our Action Cards were developed precisely for this purpose. They're not a one-size-fits-all solution, but they're a playful way to engage in deeper, more appreciative conversations with friends, family, or even strangers, laying the foundation for real connections.
Social infrastructure: Together against loneliness
As a nonprofit organization, we see it as our mission to create real places and events that bring people together. We are building a social infrastructure so that tomorrow will be a little more connected for all of us. Our partner , The Art of Embodying Change (TAEC), also pursues this idea of enabling better coexistence through values-based frameworks in supporting organizations. Because whether in private or professional life, the need to feel a sense of belonging is universal.
So if you sometimes feel lonely and alone , know that there is hope and concrete ways forward. The fear of loneliness is surmountable. It starts with the decision to take action and give yourself and others the chance to connect.
